lazy2pk Asked: My girlfriend has not been sleeping at all, help please?
she only sleeps 2 to 4 hours a day and she feels like she only sleeps 5 minutes, she says she gets a nervous feeling and she feels very anxious she has been sad and down and crying a lot. This has been going on for about a week now, she looks pale and not healthy at all, she has not been eating because she does not get hungry and when she eats she gets nauseous and feels like vomiting, ive been there for her relaxing her and trying to help but i dont know what to do, please can someone please help me, i think she may suffering from insomnia please help, i love this girl.
Get her help. I know this is not going to sound like something you want to do but you can take her to the ER and they might take her to a Mental Hospital and get her the help she needs. Don’t wait to take her and don’t second guess it. Trust me I should know I’ve been there. I got the help I needed by going and my husband telling what was going on. I got the help I needed and they might take her even though she doesn’t want to go but she needs help. She will thank you later for the help. Don’t let her suffer and don’t let her hurt her self. Take her and get her help.
INSOMNIA: Exercise, preferably 6 hours before, but not within 2 hours of bedtime. Have a warm bath, or shower, an hour before bedtime, then a glass of very warm milk, possibly with Horlicks, or one of the herbal teas, below, (this raises, then reduces your core temperature, simulating the effect of naturally occurring darkness) and use dimmer lighting. Your bedroom should be very dark, with the lights out, and a good sleeping temperature is 70 degrees Fahrenheit, or 19 degrees Centigrade. Put your mind in a position where it wants to shut itself off, and sleep. View http://www.umm.edu/sleep/relax_tech.htmThe progressive muscle relaxation at http://www.drcoxconsulting.com/managing- is very easily learned; guided imagery, or mindfulness breathing at http://altmedicine.about.com/cs/mindbody is known to be effective, or http://www.wikihow.com/Meditate or Yoga Nidra (a series of easy mental exercises only; no flexibility is required) on page L at 8m.com, below. Give the EFT a tryout. It is free via the searchbar at http://www.mercola.com“EFT” & “EFT therapists” or www.tapping.com (13 free videos) or www.eftuniverse.com Repeat to yourself: “Even though I currently have a sleep disorder, I deeply and completely accept myself.” (or choose your own wording) while you use the acupressure massage/tapping. Find out which works best for you, in the daylight hours, so you will be prepared, come bedtime. For many people, a good idea is to develop a set “wind down” routine for the last hour before bedtime, so your subconscious mind learns that it is time to put thinking aside, and prepare for mindfulness, (awareness, without cogitation/purposeful thought) or the EFT, in preparation for sleep.
The idea with mindfulness is to not even think about sleeping: just drift off, naturally, during exercising those techniques. Avoid TV, computer, or anything exciting in this hour, although reading a BORING! book is a good idea. Experiment, to find which combination works best for you. No coffee, tea, or other caffeine within 6 hrs of bedtime! Try a cup of chamomile herbal tea, an hour before bedtime. Others may prefer Sleepytime, by Celestial Seasonings, Relax, Be Sleepy, or valerian root (valerian “hangovers” possible), etc., from supermarket tea, or health food aisles. Milk, or cream should not be used with herbal tea. Get up and do something, like read a book, if you can’t sleep within 20 mns. Personally, I prefer to use word/phrase repetition for a short time, changing over to mindfulness breathing; however, you may well find another method more effective. The following EMDR variant came from a book on treating insomnia for the depressed; I use it every night, and it is well worth trying. It seems to reduce distractions during the mindfulness relaxation methods, so I use it first. Keeping your head still, move your eyes first to the far left, then far right, and repeat this another 19 times. Each full sweep should take around a second. If you like, you can either subvocalise, or repeat: “one one thousand, two one thousand, three one thousand … up to twenty.
After this, allow your body to go limp, and relax for a short time. Then repeat the whole exercise, limpness, and relaxation twice. This may well be all you need. Others may require another round of the above. Before beginning the EMDR variant, I take a whiff of lavender essential oil in both nostrils; some people prefer a drop, or two on their pillow. This provides a strong cue to the subconscious mind to prepare for sleep. Get bright light, soon after arising, to reset your circadian rhythm. Stabilise your sleep habits. Try the free sleep aid at: http://www.soundsleeping.com/ You could try melatonin (pharmacies) for a few nights only; more can interfere with the brain’s natural production of it.Hypnosis is merely a heightened state of suggestibility, in which you are better able to communicate with your subconscious mind. 85% of people are suggestible, to some extent, so consider professional hypnotherapy, or more alternatives along such lines are at http://your-mental-health.8m.com/blank_2Anxiety; see View my previous answer about anxiety at http://au.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind
Before the use of sedatives we have to look into the less damaging ways of handeling her insomnia.
Have u ever considered acupuncture? This actually worked quite well for me when I was suffering from insomnia.
Otherwise, try putting some lavender in her bath/ shower @ night and some on her pillow,
Try to have ur dinner @ around 6pm, and no tv after 8 pm, try playing board games or go for a walk to prevent getting the urge to watch tv.
Maybe look into making ur room darker, like adding thicker curtains, as this triggers the brain into knowing its sleep time.
If all else fails, visit ur GP and he will be able to give u advice on the next step.
Yep, she’s got insomnia, but the crying, anxiousness may be a indicator of a deeper problem like depression. Depression and social anxiety has been to known to cause insomnia. On the other hand, the lack of sleep may also make her moody. It could be either, but I’d go to the doctor, tell him everything (Don’t leave out any minor details they could be pivotal) and he’ll help you out. If she is pretty sure she isn’t depressed that it’s just insomnia for insomnia’s sake then just ask the doctor for ambien. It’s a miracle drug for me and every I know whose ever taken it.
Got a better answer? Share it below!